The IE Mommy

How do you adjust?

OK…

I am not generally one that asks for advice. Never have been that type of person…I generally pray over it, figure it out myself or talk to my husband about it. God has blessed me with a couple of amazing women since joining my current church. They have become my sounding board on some matters. I can not imagine having a more sound and wonderful set of ladies.

But I have a question to ask “Moms” and thought  “What better place then the blog”?

So here is the question:

What do you do when your child has terrible kids in their class?

Rylan and Skylar are taking outside classes and there are a couple of students that are just downright mean, unruly and hyper. They get the entire class going and are lacking manners beyond anything.

Do you share your observations with your children?
Do you offer your child warnings?
Do you give them the “look” (You know the one that means…don’t you dare act like them?)
or
Do you just let them figure it out alone?

I have the blessing and the curse right now to be there with them. Since it’s a home school alternative…the parents are allowed to either drop them off (i.e. like a regular school) or they can stay  close by. I’ve stayed with them in their morning class but have opted out of the other afternoon classes because I just can’t handle those kids.

So what’s right?

I know there comes a time that my girls must learn to defend themselves and stand up for themselves but is it now?

C’mon moms…give me some assistance…because I am just not sure what is right?

It is 10 am and I am sitting on the floor of a church waiting for my girls to finish class. While we are still homeschooling this year…the IE Twins are taking some outside classes. I think it’s a great option for them to experience a “school” environment without  losing the reason that we wanted to home school in the first place.

The first two years we’ve pretty much gone solo in our home school adventure but this year we decided to add a bit of twist and interest.  So far, it’s pretty awesome.

The IE Twins have really had a great time meeting other kids, new teachers and having the opportunity to realize that mom isn’t just blowing smoke when I remind them to “raise their hands”, “wait their turn” , “stay in their chair“…etc.

I like the reinforcement but it is kind of hard to hear others directing, reprimanding or dictating do’s and dont’s to your child.

I realize that is what they need to do so I pretty much stay “invisible” and allow the teachers to be teachers. I am aware that it’s part of life but it’s hard.

My girls have been with me everyday of their life for the past 7 years so it is going to take some getting use too…the idea of being apart…hence why I am trying to be invisible around the corner from the room…blogging away.

Skylar isn’t quite ready for mom to drop her off and leave. This morning she was confident that today would be the day Mommy could drop her off.  The morning started great but as the class started to walk away she turned around, rushed back to me and said in a whisper “Please stay mommy”.

So here I am….

The hardest part of being a mother…giving your child wings and then letting them fly.

Soon enough she’ll be flying away but for now…I’ll sit patiently on the floor. Giving her the courage she needs. One day I’ll be able to drive off and then one she will too.

Until then….here I sit and it’s totally okay.