VALUE is Completely Lost on my Daughter; or is She the One that Really Gets it??

Money truly is the root of all evil. In this fallen world where money reigns supreme and each generation surpasses the previous with their sense of entitlement; I shake my head in frustration. Nothing is more cringeworthy to me than hearing a child say something greedy or selfish. How do I raise my children to be thankful and gracious in a world that tells them they are owed the best and the most of everything.VALUE

I have had a few experiences with my almost six year old daughter Paige that made me fear for her financial future. She clearly doesn’t understand the value of money.

Value is defined by Wikipedia in several different ways.

Value (marketing), the difference between a customer’s evaluation of benefits and costs.

Value (economics), a measure of the benefit that may be gained from goods or service.

Value (ethics) In ethics, value denotes something’s degree of importance, with the aim of determining what action of life is best to do or live (deontology), or to describe the significance of different actions (axiology). It may be described as treating actions themselves as abstract objects, putting value to them. It deals with right conduct and good life, in the sense that a highly, or at least relatively highly, valuable action may be regarded as ethically “good” (adjective sense), and an action of low, or at least relatively low, value may be regarded as “bad”.

Value (personal and cultural) A personal value is an individual’s absolute or relative and ethical value, the assumption of which can be the basis for ethical action. A value system is a set of consistent values and measures. 

A few recent events concerned me relating to some of these definitions.

Just Buy Another One! (marketing)

I recently got really upset with Paige when she broke something of great monetary value to me. Her response was a flippant “just buy another one.” I don’t think this was a bratty response as much as it was an ignorant one. She doesn’t understand the value of money. I explained to her how daddy works hard to earn money to pay our bills and buy the things we need and sometimes when there’s enough left, to buy the things we want. This is a conversation I’ve had to repeat because she just doesn’t get it.

Value (marketing), the difference between a customer’s evaluation of benefits and costs.

The Trade (economics)

Another incident that left me concerned about her financial future was when her friend won a drawing for a free ice cream cone and she agreed to trade it for the grand prize of a scooter if she won it. What? I tried explaining to her that trading a $1 ice cream cone for $100 scooter didn’t make sense. But to her it made perfect sense. “I really love ice cream and I don’t even want a scooter and he wants a scooter.” That ice cream cone had more value to her then a silly old scooter!  Both sought to gain something of value to them, regardless of it’s actual monetary worth.

Value (economics), a measure of the benefit that may be gained from goods or service.

While both of these concerned me about her interpretation of the value of things, there have been others that left me thinking maybe SHE is the one that really understands value in the forms that really matter.

Spirit of Generosity (ethics)

Paige has a great spirit of generosity. While this isn’t technically one of the fruits of the spirit, I would say it falls in line with several of them including love, joy, kindness and goodness.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness. Galatians 5:22

I can immediately think of several examples of this in recent months. For a friends birthday, Paige wrapped up her favorite stuffed animal and gave it to him as a gift. I’m ashamed to admit part of me was embarrassed that she was giving a “used toy” to someone for their birthday but I stopped myself to think about what this really meant.

She was giving away something she loved and adored for years to someone because she loved them even more. And this little boy knew that and got that because he knows Paige’s heart. It’s a beautiful thing to watch a friendship filled with unconditional love and kindness that only the really young and innocent seem capable of anymore.

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One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.Proverbs 18:24 (NIV)

For her brothers birthday she was sad that she hadn’t gotten him anything so she gave him all of the money from her piggy bank; every last dime! Again I wanted to stop her. This was a couple YEARS worth of money that she had saved. But it came from her HEART more than her piggy bank and while her brother may not have gotten the full significance of that, her father and I did.

You will be enriched in every way so that you can be generous on every occasion, and through us your generosity will result in thanksgiving to God. 2 Corinthians 9:11

Time and time again I have seen Paige’s generosity towards others with her possessions because to her giving truly is more important than receiving. She values relationships over things and her sense of ethics is strong and secure because she understands what really matters.

Value (ethics), In ethics, value denotes something’s degree of importance, with the aim of determining what action of life is best to do or live (deontology), or to describe the significance of different actions (axiology). It may be described as treating actions themselves as abstract objects, putting value to them. It deals with right conduct and good life, in the sense that a highly, or at least relatively highly, valuable action may be regarded as ethically “good” (adjective sense), and an action of low, or at least relatively low, value may be regarded as “bad”.

Paige Gets a Hundy (personal and cultural)

Last year Reed’s Grandparents gave him a hundred dollar bill. Why? Because he asked for it! He saw that Papa had money from something he’d sold and asked for it. This week Nana and Papa decided to do the same for Paige. This was her reaction.

It’s a little bit hard to hear but her brother starts telling her what she can buy him and she says she’s going to put it away. It’s not exactly the response I expected either. But that’s because Paige doesn’t really understand money! She doesn’t know what she can do or how much she can buy with this. I tried to explain to her that now she could buy anything she wanted and she literally told me a $5 figurine she wanted for her birthday that I could use it for. She just put it away and hasn’t spoken of it since.

Value (personal and cultural) A personal value is an individual’s absolute or relative and ethical value, the assumption of which can be the basis for ethical action. A value system is a set of consistent values and measures.

Her Financial Future

I still have concerns about Paige’s financial future. Learning about money and what to do with it; how to spend and save will come in time. It’s something she will have to be taught. I have no concerns however about her ethical future.

  • ♥ Paige knows the value of friendship. People are drawn to her because of her beautiful spirit and the open way she loves with all her heart.
  • ♥ She understands the joy that’s found in giving and watching other people’s happiness and how it warms your own heart.
  • ♥ She realizes that doing things and spending time together and making memories is more important than buying things.
  • ♥ She knows that true happiness can not be bought in a store.

I know Paige has much to learn about money but understanding true value is something she continues to teach me every day.

lindsey

 

Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. Matthew 6:19-21

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I am a stay at home mom of three; ages 7, 6 and 1! I love doing product reviews and finding the best things to use for my family. Reading and writing have always been my passions so this allows me to incorporate them with the things that mean the most to me!
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Comments

  1. So super sweet! I think she may have life figured out beyond us!

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